There is absolutely no way that we are going to talk about New Year’s resolutions. For one, I already talked about it last year, and for the other, I think that if you want something to change (if you want to change something about yourself) you don’t need to have January 1 to come about to begin with your plans.
For this first edition of 2018 I thought we should discuss something I heard on the radio last week: The Rushing Woman Syndrome.
The Rushing Woman Syndrome
Rush, rush! Hurry, hurry!
The Rushing Woman Syndrome was coined by Australian author, speaker and nutritional biochemist Dr Libby Weaver – and it does sound like an excellent book to get my hands on soon.
The description of the book reads the following.
Between deadlines and financial responsibilities, school runs and household duties, caring for loved ones of all ages and intimate relationships, our lives can be demanding. We’re often wound up, running ourselves ragged in a daily battle to get things done, feeling as though there’s so much to do, and yet never quite getting on top of things.
This perceived need to rush and the relentless pursuit to be all things to all people is causing detrimental changes to our bodies and driving a long-term crisis in women’s health.
I suggest that it can cause a serious crisis for both genders!
Permanent stress is harmful
The fast pace of our lifestyles has forgotten one thing: we are not made for this hurry.
Being available 24/7, sleeping without feeling rested, online and never really offline, always alert and on heightened senses everyday, all day. Rushing here, driving there, and “do that before clocking out”!
Does any of this sound familiar to you?
Only, our human construct, or the way our body functions was not made to handle stress on this level.
By consequence, at any point in time, you may break down. It can be a physical reaction, or an emotional reaction.
Unless you have Wonder Woman’s (or Wolverine’s) powers, then don’t try and imitate the original. This undertaking is bound to fail. You are a unique, graceful and fragile human being (male or female).
The first thing to do is respect the boundaries of your mind, and the limits of your body.
Reactions to your actions
Do you remember Newton’s third law of motion?
For every action, there is an equal and opposite reaction.
Forces always come in pairs – equal and opposite action-reaction force pairs. When you sit in your chair, your body exerts a downward force on the chair and the chair exerts an upward force on your body.
If you rush through life, glorifying being busy, what equal and opposite reaction to yourself do you imagine? Your body is hard-wired to react to stress in ways meant to protect you against threats from predators and other aggressors.
The Mayo Clinic says:
The long-term activation of the stress-response system — and the subsequent overexposure to cortisol and other stress hormones — can disrupt almost all your body’s processes. This puts you at increased risk of numerous health problems, including:
Memory and concentration impairment
Not so much digging the glorification of busy now, are you?
One word. Actually, that’s two words. Take a deep breath and slow down. Relax and let your body de-stress.
You have not understood one concept. Life is not what you think it is. Life is 70% free of you. That is one thing that you cannot adjust. I am not against ego. It is a good thing to keep you identified. But that is it. (Yogi Bhajan)
Seriously, be somewhat egoistic about your quality me-time. Be consistent and devoted in taking time to yourself. The best is of course if you make this a daily practice. Sit down 3 to 5 minutes in the ambrosial hours of the morning, the Amrit Vela, and just listen to your breath and let your thoughts pass (if you are a beginner). Advanced Yogis will know of the value of their daily Sadhana.
Learn to say No
No is a perfect sentence and it requires no justification.
If something is not a “hell, YEAH!”, then it’s a “no!
Yes, your husband knows how and where to take out the garbage. The only thing is that men function different to women. Give him a very clear instruction. Don’t nag.
Yogi Bhajan says about speaking to a man: “The first rule of talking to a man is to keep it simple. (…) Men like direct talks except when it is aimed at their egos.”
Men want to please the female, it’s their biological nature. Just don’t hurt his ego – he will not be your amigo.
Men, what you need to know about women is that we are complex (oh, ok, you knew that ;)) Yogi Bhajan says about a woman: “Woman is a polarity. The moon (woman) reflects you. She can never be you. She represents your subconscious. She will never reflect your conscious.”
Life is what happens while you are busy making other plans.
Wahe Guru Ji Ki Ka Khalsa
Wahe Guru Ji Ki Fateh
Light & Love